Thursday, December 29, 2011
Black Men Who Pray
by Dr. Michelle Johnson
Great black fathers and husbands do exist. Some of them write for this website, while others you will never know. I grew up with a great father who adopted me and my brothers when we were just infants. He didn’t let the fact that we were not “blood” keep him for loving, providing for, and praying for us.My husband plays a similar role in my immediate family today. In particular, I love it when he prays for our daughter, when he lays his hands on her asthmatic chest and speaks healing into her body. I love it when he walks into her bedroom at night just to make sure she is sleeping peacefully. Or, when he drops her at school and repeats the same blessing day after day: “May God bless you.” For me, there is nothing more enduring or attractive about my husband than his faith in God and his fervent prayers for his family. I know in my heart that God hears him and that he hears from God.My husband is not unique. There are millions of black men who are praying husbands and fathers, one of which is Craig Varnado, a fellow church member and Facebook friend. About a week ago, Craig posted a happy birthday message to his daughter. But this wasn’t the “traditional” Facebook birthday greeting. It was a prayer. Check it out:
Happy Birthday to my daughter Christen who just turned 1 year-old. Here is my prayer for her:Lord, thank you for bringing this little girl into our lives. Thank you for one year of life. There are many babies that didn’t make it one day, one week, or one month, but we are blessed that she has been here for one year in perfect health. I pray that she continues to grow and flourish in everything that she does with her life. Please remove anything that is negative from her life in the present and in the future. Any negative stereotypes that might affect her I ask that you get rid of them RIGHT NOW. Let her know that she is Beautiful, Intelligent, and Smart, and that she doesn’t need the pressure from society to feel that way. Allow her to go about this life with her Head Up and feeling good about herself. With her brother and all her boy cousins, she has a ZONE defense to protect her, but I know you will be playing PREVENT defense and protecting her. Let her know that she “can do all things thru Christ who strengthens her.” I ask that you continue to guide her life, and whatever it is that she wants to do with her life, she seeks You first for guidance. I ask all of this in Your name……AMEN!!!!P.S. PLEASE KEEP HER OFF THE POLE!!!!!Don’t you love it when black men pray, and pray in their own way? They don’t have to use a lot of religious words or sound preachy; all they have to do is speak from the heart, be real, and believe.
Friday, December 23, 2011
A Christmas Hope-By: Cleon Ross
food baskets that our church gives out during the Christmas season, along with
gifts for the children of those families who have less than we do, I was struck
by many happy greetings that I received at each business that I entered: merry
Christmas, happy holidays, have a blessed Christmas, seasons greetings to you,
and happy Christmas.
It was just great to see people truly happy and sharing it
with others. That’s what the birth of our Savior is supposed to be. Why can’t
people of God be this joyful everyday of the year, not just at Christmas?
As I was driving home after doing my errands, I began to think
about all those people who will be sad during these holy days of Christmas.
Those people are all around us — those who are away from loved ones, service
members and their families, those who are struggling with life-threatening
illness, those who have no funds to buy gifts for those whom they love or even
those who have nothing to eat, no job or worse, no hope of finding work.
No, there is no end to the list of those who will not have a
merry Christmas.
OK, OK, I know you are saying to yourself: why, is he trying
to be such a “wet blanket” during this happy season?
I’m not at all. What I am trying to point out is Christ did
not come to earth to end suffering and pain, but to give it meaning.
Those who seek to be Christ-like listen to his words and
respond to those words. That response must include prayer and action. That
action can include calling those who we know will be alone during Christmas,
sending a card to someone who is serving in the military, sending a note to
someone who has lost a family member this past year and visiting those who are
struggling with illness. Also, giving to those who have little or nothing during
this holy time.
There are lots of ways to do that: angel trees, food baskets
and many others. Find someone who has no work and hire them to do lawn work or
paint the back steps, giving them not only a small amount of money, but hope.
When you have made the effort to make a difference in someone’s life, you will
have made those words of two thousand years ago come alive in this 2011
Christmas season. “When you have done it unto the least of mine, you have done
it unto me.”
As each of us celebrates the true meaning of Christmas, the
birth of Christ, it is my prayer that each of us will pray for hearts to turn to
the prince of peace, joy on earth, peace and goodwill. May this be our lot this
coming year. Merry Christmas and may God bless you the whole year
through!
The Psychology of Santa
A microscope. A new puppy. A mother. And absolutely, positively NO CLOTHES.
From the humorous to the heart-wrenching, children's wish lists to Santa
reveal that children aren't as toy-centric as parents think — and that they're
not as polite as perhaps they should be.
Carole
Slotterback, a
psychology professor at the University
of Scranton, analyzed nearly 1,200 letters sent between 1998 and 2003 to the
central post office in Scranton,
a struggling former coal city in northeastern Pennsylvania.
The missives were scrawled or painstakingly
handwritten on every type of paper and in every shade of ink. Many were
decorated with drawings, stickers or glitter; some children gave Santa not only
their addresses but their phone numbers, parents' cell
phone numbers and their school pictures — just to make sure the Big Guy knew
how to find them on Christmas.
Slotterback,
who describes her findings in the book "The Psychology of Santa," said the
letters "touched me in so many different ways."
"Some are just absolutely a stitch, and others are some of the saddest things
I've ever read," she said.
One kid asked to be an elf. Another made a list that included Pokemon cards,
a camera and a microscope. But about every third item, the child wrote: "NO
clothes."
And then there was the one written in careful cursive on bright pink paper,
in which Santa was asked for perhaps the greatest gift of all: a mom.
"Not just for me but my daddy, brother and granny ... my daddy works so hard
and then he comes home to cook and clean and it should be easier," the letter
read.
The child drew a 5-cent
"stamp" on the envelope before dropping it in the mailbox.
The U.S.
Postal Service receives hundreds of thousands of letters to Santa each year,
with increases during tough economic times, said spokeswoman
Sue
Brennan.
None of them make it to the North Pole. But some
do get responses through Operation Santa; about 500,000 letters in New York
City alone were answered last year by individuals, companies and postal
employees, Brennan
said.
Some are funny — one asked Santa to check the appropriate box: Real or not
real? — but many more are not, she said.
"I've never gone 5 or 10 minutes without getting
teary," said Brennan.
"It's very emotional."
Children who sent letters instead of lists were
generally more polite and chatty, for instance asking about Mrs.
Claus, Slotterback
said.
Except for the death threat. One child wrote:
"Dear Santa, I am going to kill you and steal the toys from your workshop." Slotterback
reported it to the postmaster, who agreed to contact people at the return
address, which she believes was a juvenile facility.
The letters also show kids are sensitive to
current events. In 2001, just months after the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks,
children's letters were very patriotic, Slotterback
said. Kids drew pictures of Santa's sleigh with American flags hanging off the
back, and of St. Nick putting flags in stockings; they also asked for fewer toys
that year, she found.
And there was no indication that children feared the terrorists would get
Santa, she said.
"Terrorists can do all kinds of things to our
world, and they can hurt us in many ways, but one thing they can't do is touch
Santa," said Slotterback.
"And that was nice to see."
Overall, between 3 percent and 6 percent of
letters had what Slotterback
called "family requests," such as for a sick grandmother to get better or for Mom and
Dad to stop fighting.
She suggested parents ask to see their kids' wish
lists, because they might be surprised at what is — and what's not — on it.
Requests are often "simpler kids of things than you might think," Slotterback
said.
But she noted a surprising lack of social niceties in the correspondence,
unless the child was asking for a pet. A boy who asked for a golden retriever
used "please" 16 times, she said. The next-highest use came from a girl who
wanted a horse.
Slotterback
cited other research that found people who expect their requests to be fulfilled
— like a boss asking an employee to do something — are less likely to say
please. Perhaps likewise, she said, kids expect Santa to come through.
Still, she said, "you'd think if you were asking for a lot of presents, you
would throw in a 'please' or a 'thank you.'"
From the humorous to the heart-wrenching, children's wish lists to Santa
reveal that children aren't as toy-centric as parents think — and that they're
not as polite as perhaps they should be.
Carole
Slotterback, a
psychology professor at the University
of Scranton, analyzed nearly 1,200 letters sent between 1998 and 2003 to the
central post office in Scranton,
a struggling former coal city in northeastern Pennsylvania.
The missives were scrawled or painstakingly
handwritten on every type of paper and in every shade of ink. Many were
decorated with drawings, stickers or glitter; some children gave Santa not only
their addresses but their phone numbers, parents' cell
phone numbers and their school pictures — just to make sure the Big Guy knew
how to find them on Christmas.
Slotterback,
who describes her findings in the book "The Psychology of Santa," said the
letters "touched me in so many different ways."
"Some are just absolutely a stitch, and others are some of the saddest things
I've ever read," she said.
One kid asked to be an elf. Another made a list that included Pokemon cards,
a camera and a microscope. But about every third item, the child wrote: "NO
clothes."
And then there was the one written in careful cursive on bright pink paper,
in which Santa was asked for perhaps the greatest gift of all: a mom.
"Not just for me but my daddy, brother and granny ... my daddy works so hard
and then he comes home to cook and clean and it should be easier," the letter
read.
The child drew a 5-cent
"stamp" on the envelope before dropping it in the mailbox.
The U.S.
Postal Service receives hundreds of thousands of letters to Santa each year,
with increases during tough economic times, said spokeswoman
Sue
Brennan.
None of them make it to the North Pole. But some
do get responses through Operation Santa; about 500,000 letters in New York
City alone were answered last year by individuals, companies and postal
employees, Brennan
said.
Some are funny — one asked Santa to check the appropriate box: Real or not
real? — but many more are not, she said.
"I've never gone 5 or 10 minutes without getting
teary," said Brennan.
"It's very emotional."
Children who sent letters instead of lists were
generally more polite and chatty, for instance asking about Mrs.
Claus, Slotterback
said.
Except for the death threat. One child wrote:
"Dear Santa, I am going to kill you and steal the toys from your workshop." Slotterback
reported it to the postmaster, who agreed to contact people at the return
address, which she believes was a juvenile facility.
The letters also show kids are sensitive to
current events. In 2001, just months after the Sept. 11 terrorist attacks,
children's letters were very patriotic, Slotterback
said. Kids drew pictures of Santa's sleigh with American flags hanging off the
back, and of St. Nick putting flags in stockings; they also asked for fewer toys
that year, she found.
And there was no indication that children feared the terrorists would get
Santa, she said.
"Terrorists can do all kinds of things to our
world, and they can hurt us in many ways, but one thing they can't do is touch
Santa," said Slotterback.
"And that was nice to see."
Overall, between 3 percent and 6 percent of
letters had what Slotterback
called "family requests," such as for a sick grandmother to get better or for Mom and
Dad to stop fighting.
She suggested parents ask to see their kids' wish
lists, because they might be surprised at what is — and what's not — on it.
Requests are often "simpler kids of things than you might think," Slotterback
said.
But she noted a surprising lack of social niceties in the correspondence,
unless the child was asking for a pet. A boy who asked for a golden retriever
used "please" 16 times, she said. The next-highest use came from a girl who
wanted a horse.
Slotterback
cited other research that found people who expect their requests to be fulfilled
— like a boss asking an employee to do something — are less likely to say
please. Perhaps likewise, she said, kids expect Santa to come through.
Still, she said, "you'd think if you were asking for a lot of presents, you
would throw in a 'please' or a 'thank you.'"
Pass The Ball...
Monday, December 19, 2011
BE STILL...
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Often when I pray the words, "Be still..." come to my mind. The ending might be different. It could be just "be still" or maybe "be still and know," or "be still and know that I am God." And sometimes, "be still and know that I love you."Be still.My younger son cannot be still. I don't mean still as in motionless; I mean still as in quiet. He doesn't talk all the time, but he is always making some kind of noise. He fills the still air with tiny noises. Be still.Do you have a compulsion to fill the air -- to fill the stillness? Do you find comfort in quiet? Or is it empty? Sometimes, when I pray, and I hear the words "be still," I don't want to obey. I want to get on with it. I'm probably praying because I have something to say, to ask, to tell. I don't want to be still. And yet, I try to obey. I try to stop talking and let the empty quiet exist. To know. To listen. To just be in the stillness.
Be still and know...
Monday, December 12, 2011
From The Executive Director
During times of adversity and hardship, when the grey, thick clouds of political strife and international crises loom over us, it is natural to want to draw the curtains closed and barricade ourselves from the ugliness outside our doors. When we wonder if we will have enough money to keep a roof over our heads and food on our tables, it might be difficult to imagine that we can offer anything of value to God. Yet, it is in these seasons of spiritual winter; in these times of vulnerability and uncertainty that we offer to God the gifts he desires most.
Although our hands may be empty of resources, if our hearts are full of praise and thankfulness to Him and love expressed in generosity to His people, He is blessed beyond measure. As he found much pleasure in the poor widow's offering of a few pennies at the temple, so he finds much pleasure in our sacrificial giving of ourselves during times of hardship.
No matter what season you are experiencing in your life, as you present your heart to the Lord, may you feel the warmth of His light shine upon you and through you. May that light be a beacon to those in the darkness and may you truly be a messenger of God's greatest gift to the world, His son, Jesus Christ.
God grant you the light in Christmas, which is faith; the warmth of Christmas, which is love; the radiance of Christmas, which is purity; the righteousness of Christmas, which is justice; the belief in Christmas, which is truth; the all of Christmas, which is Christ.
From all of us at Pass-The_Ball
Rev. M.D. Rogers-Executive Director
Christmas Prayer:
Father, We thank Thee for this day.
Bless all we do and all we say.
May we each enjoy Thy blessings great
As Jesus' Birth we celebrate.
And may the love that we share here
Remain throughout the coming year.
Amen!
Although our hands may be empty of resources, if our hearts are full of praise and thankfulness to Him and love expressed in generosity to His people, He is blessed beyond measure. As he found much pleasure in the poor widow's offering of a few pennies at the temple, so he finds much pleasure in our sacrificial giving of ourselves during times of hardship.
No matter what season you are experiencing in your life, as you present your heart to the Lord, may you feel the warmth of His light shine upon you and through you. May that light be a beacon to those in the darkness and may you truly be a messenger of God's greatest gift to the world, His son, Jesus Christ.
God grant you the light in Christmas, which is faith; the warmth of Christmas, which is love; the radiance of Christmas, which is purity; the righteousness of Christmas, which is justice; the belief in Christmas, which is truth; the all of Christmas, which is Christ.
From all of us at Pass-The_Ball
Rev. M.D. Rogers-Executive Director
Christmas Prayer:
Father, We thank Thee for this day.
Bless all we do and all we say.
May we each enjoy Thy blessings great
As Jesus' Birth we celebrate.
And may the love that we share here
Remain throughout the coming year.
Amen!
Saturday, December 10, 2011
The Significance of the Wise Men
How many wise men were there? We simply don’t know; we just know there was more than one but we know they brought three gifts. The passage in Matthew 2:1-11 make it clear that these Magi traveled from the east following a star [see What Was the Star of Bethlehem?] that led them to Israel.
These wise men were searching for the Christ, the promised Messiah. From the account of the wise men, they were from the “east.” This is likely the orient. The fact that men came from such a vast distance to honor the baby Jesus with gifts give a powerful testimony to the history related in Genesis and the faith of these men.
How could men that far off have known about a promised messiah? When people groups were scattered from the Tower of Babel, they went to all parts of the earth. Their descendants continued migrating until people were living on six continents (see Flood Legends)!.
The “east” was no exception. The Chinese, for instance, have records of the Genesis account and the message of Christ written in the symbols of their language. They even have records indicating that they were to sacrifice animals to the one true God who was the creator and the one who rescued man during a huge flood. Please see The Original ‘Unknown’ God of China.
This confirms that they knew much of the biblical account at some point after the Tower of Babel. While many lost this precious information in the East we know that some still retained it—the wise men. These men from the orient were no doubt wise. Unlike many of their contemporaries who had lost the history in the Bible, they knew that Jesus was coming. This confirmation of biblical history and trust in the Scriptures is a testimony of the accuracy of the biblical account and the Tower of Babel.
Many in today’s culture have also lost the true history in the Bible. They have accepted the history of “millions of years” and, just like the contemporaries of the wise men, have failed to recognize Jesus as the Messiah.
Pass-the_Ball...
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Twas the Night Before Christmas
Twas the Night Before Christmas
By Clement C. Moore
'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house
Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
The stockings were hung by the chimney with care
In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads;
And mamma in her kerchief, and I in my cap,
Had just settled our brains for a long winter's nap,
When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.
Away to the window I flew like a flash,
Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash.
The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow
Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below,
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a miniature sleigh, and eight tiny reindeer,
With a little old driver, so lively and quick,
I knew in a moment it must be St. Nick.
More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
And he whistled, and shouted, and called them by name:
"Now, Dasher! now, Dancer! now, Prancer and Vixen!
On, Comet! on, Cupid! on, Donder and Blitzen!
To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall!
Now dash away! dash away! dash away all!"
As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky;
So up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
With the sleigh full of Toys, and St. Nicholas too.
As dry leaves that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky;
So up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
With the sleigh full of Toys, and St. Nicholas too.
And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the roof
The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound.
He was dressed all in fur, from his head to his foot,
And his clothes were all tarnished with ashes and soot;
A bundle of Toys he had flung on his back,
And he looked like a peddler just opening his pack.
His eyes--how they twinkled! his dimples how merry!
His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry!
His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow;
The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath;
He had a broad face and a little round belly,
That shook when he laughed, like a bowlful of jelly.
He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf,
And I laughed when I saw him, in spite of myself;
A wink of his eye and a twist of his head,
Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread;
He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
And filled all the stockings; then turned with a jerk,
And laying his finger aside of his nose,
And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose;
He sprang to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
And away they all flew like the down
of a thistle.
But I heard him exclaim, ere he
drove out of sight,
"Happy Christmas to all, and to all
a good-night
Christmas in the Alley
by Olive Thorne Miller
"I declare for 'tomorrow is Christmas Day an' I clean forgot all about it," said old Ann, the washerwoman, pausing in her work and holding the flatiron suspended in the air.
"Much good it'll do us," growled a discontented voice from the coarse bed in the corner.
"We haven't much extra, to be sure," answered Ann cheerfully, bringing the iron down onto the shirt-bosom before her, "but at least we've enough to eat, and a good fire, and that's more'n some have, not a thousand miles from here either."
"We might have plenty more," said the fretful voice, "if you didn't think so much more of strangers than you do of your own folk's comfort, keeping a houseful of beggars, as if you was a lady!"
"Now, John," replied Ann, taking another iron from the fire, "you're not half so bad as you pretend. You wouldn't have me turn them poor creatures into the streets to freeze, now, would you?"
"It's none of our business to pay rent for them," grumbled John. "Every one for himself, I say, these hard times. If they can't pay you'd ought to send 'em off; there's plenty as can."
"They'd pay quick enough if they could get work," said Ann. "They're good honest fellows, every one, and paid me regular as long as they had a cent. But when hundreds are out o' work in the city, what can they do?"
"That's none o' your business, you can turn 'em out!" growled John.
"And leave the poor children to freeze as well as starve?" said Ann. "Who'd ever take 'em in without money, I'd like to know? No, John," bringing her iron down as though she meant it, "I'm glad I'm well enough to wash and iron, and pay my rent, and so long as I can do that, and keep the hunger away from you and the child, I'll never turn the poor souls out, leastways, not in this freezing winter weather."
"An' here's Christmas," the old man went on whiningly, "an' not a penny to spend, an' I needin' another blanket so bad, with my rhumatiz, an' haven't had a drop of tea for I don't know how long!"
"I know it," said Ann, never mentioning that she too had been without tea, and not only that, but with small allowance of food of any kind, "and I'm desperate sorry I can't get a bit of something for Katey. The child never missed a little something in her stocking before."
"Yes," John struck in, "much you care for your flesh an' blood. The child ha'n't had a thing this winter."
"That's true enough," said Ann, with a sigh, "an' it's the hardest thing of all that I've had to keep her out o' school when she was doing so beautiful."
"An' her feet all on the ground," growled John.
"I know her shoes is bad," said Ann, hanging the shirt up on a line that stretched across the room, and was already nearly full of freshly ironed clothes, "but they're better than the Parker children's."
"What's that to us?" almost shouted the weak old man, shaking his fist at her in his rage.
"Well, keep your temper, old man," said Ann. "I'm sorry it goes so hard with you, but as long as I can stand on my feet, I sha'n't turn anybody out to freeze, that's certain."
"How much'll you get for them?" said the miserable old man, after a few moments' silence, indicating by his hand the clean clothes on the line.
"Two dollars," said Ann, "and half of it must go to help make up next month's rent. I've got a good bit to make up yet, and only a week to do it in, and I sha'n't have another cent till day after to-morrow."
"Well, I wish you'd manage to buy me a little tea," whined the old man; "seems as if that would go right to the spot, and warm up my old bones a bit."
"I'll try," said Ann, revolving in her mind how she could save a few pennies from her indispensable purchases to get tea and sugar, for without sugar he would not touch it.
Wearied with his unusual exertion, the old man now dropped off to sleep, and Ann went softly about, folding and piling the clothes into a big basket already half full. When they were all packed in, and nicely covered with a piece of clean muslin, she took an old shawl and hood from a nail in the corner, put them on, blew out the candle, for it must not burn one moment unnecessarily, and, taking up her basket, went out into the cold winter night, softly closing the door behind her.
The house was on an alley, but as soon as she turned the corner she was in the bright streets, glittering with lamps and gay people. The shop windows were brilliant with Christmas displays, and thousands of warmly dressed buyers were lingering before them, laughing and chatting, and selecting their purchases. Surely it seemed as if there could be no want here.
As quickly as her burden would let her, the old washerwoman passed through the crowd into a broad street and rang the basement bell of a large, showy house.
"Oh, it's the washerwoman!" said a flashy-looking servant who answered the bell; "set the basket right m here. Mrs. Keithe can't look them over to-night. There's company in the parlour - Miss Carry's Christmas party."
"Ask her to please pay me - at least a part," said old Ann hastily. "I don't see how I can do without the money. I counted on it."
"I'll ask her," said the pert young woman, turning to go upstairs; "but it's no use."
Returning in a moment, she delivered the message. "She has no change to-night; you're to come in the morning."
"Dear me!" thought Ann, as she plodded back through the streets, "it'll be even worse than I expected, for there's not a morsel to eat in the house, and not a penny to buy one with. Well, well, the Lord will provide, the Good Book says, but it's mighty dark days, and it's hard to believe."
Entering the house, Ann sat down silently before the expiring fire. She was tired, her bones ached, and she was faint for want of food.
Wearily she rested her head on her hands, and tried to think of some way to get a few cents. She had nothing she could sell or pawn, everything she could do without had gone before, in similar emergencies. After sitting there some time, and revolving plan after plan, only to find them all impossible, she was forced to conclude that they must go supperless to bed.
Her husband grumbled, and Katey--who came in from a neighbour's--cried with hunger, and after they were asleep old Ann crept into bed to keep warm, more disheartened than she had been all winter.
If we could only see a little way ahead! All this time - the darkest the house on the alley had seen - help was on the way to them. A kind-hearted city missionary, visiting one of the unfortunate families living in the upper rooms of old Ann's house, had learned from them of the noble charity of the humble old washerwoman. It was more than princely charity, for she not only denied herself nearly every comfort, but she endured the reproaches of her husband, and the tears of her child.
Telling the story to a party of his friends this Christmas Eve, their hearts were troubled, and they at once emptied their purses into his hands for her. And the gift was at that very moment in the pocket of the missionary, waiting for morning to make her Christmas happy. Christmas morning broke clear and cold. Ann was up early, as usual, made her fire, with the last of her coal, cleared up her two rooms, and, leaving her husband and Katey in bed, was about starting out to try and get her money to provide a breakfast for them. At the door she met the missionary.
"Good-morning, Ann," said he. "I wish you a Merry Christmas."
"Thank you, sir," said Ann cheerfully; "the same to yourself."
"Have you been to breakfast already?" asked the missionary.
"No, sir," said Ann. "I was just going out for it."
"I haven't either," said he, "but I couldn't bear to wait until I had eaten breakfast before I brought you your Christmas present - suspect you haven't had any yet."
Ann smiled. "Indeed, sir, I haven't had one since I can remember."
"Well, I have one for you. Come in, and I'll tell you about it."
Too much amazed for words, Ann led him into the room. The missionary opened his purse, and handed her a roll of bills.
"Why - what!" she gasped, taking it mechanically.
"Some friends of mine heard of your generous treatment of the poor families upstairs," he went on, "and they send you this, with their respects and best wishes for Christmas. Do just what you please with it - it is wholly yours. No thanks," he went on, as she struggled to speak. "It's not from me. Just enjoy it - that's all. It has done them more good to give than it can you to receive," and before she could speak a word he was gone.
What did the old washerwoman do?
Well, first she fell on her knees and buried her agitated face in the bedclothes. After a while she became aware of a storm of words from her husband, and she got up, subdued as much as possible her agitation, and tried to answer his frantic questions.
"How much did he give you, old stupid?" he screamed; "can't you speak, or are you struck dumb? Wake up! I just wish I could reach you! I'd shake you till your teeth rattled!"
His vicious looks were a sign, it was evident that he only lacked the strength to be as good as his word. Ann roused herself from her stupour and spoke at last.
"I don't know. I'll count it." She unrolled the bills and began.
"O Lord!" she exclaimed excitedly, "here's ten-dollar bills! One, two, three, and a twenty-that makes five--and five are fifty-five--sixty--seventy--eighty--eighty-five--ninety--one hundred--and two and five are seven, and two and one are ten, twenty--twenty-five--one hundred and twenty-five! Why, I'm rich!" she shouted. "Bless the Lord! Oh, this is the glorious Christmas Day! I knew He'd provide. Katey! Katey!" she screamed at the door of the other room, where the child lay asleep. "Merry Christmas to you, darlin'! Now you can have some shoes! and a new dress! and--and--breakfast, and a regular Christmas dinner! Oh! I believe I shall go crazy!"
But she did not. Joy seldom hurts people, and she was brought back to everyday affairs by the querulous voice of her husband.
"Now I will have my tea, an' a new blanket, an' some tobacco--how I have wanted a pipe!" and he went on enumerating his wants while Ann bustled about, putting away most of her money, and once more getting ready to go out.
"I'll run out and get some breakfast," she said, "but don't you tell a soul about the money."
"No! they'll rob us!" shrieked the old man.
"Nonsense! I'll hide it well, but I want to keep it a secret for another reason. Mind, Katey, don't you tell?"
"No!" said Katey, with wide eyes. "But can I truly have a new frock, Mammy, and new shoes--and is it really Christmas?"
"It's really Christmas, darlin'," said Ann, "and you'll see what mammy'll bring home to you, after breakfast."
The luxurious meal of sausages, potatoes, and hot tea was soon smoking on the table, and was eagerly devoured by Katey and her father. But Ann could not eat much. She was absent-minded, and only drank a cup of tea. As soon as breakfast was over, she left Katey to wash the dishes, and started out again.
She walked slowly down the street, revolving a great plan in her mind.
"Let me see," she said to herself. "They shall have a happy day for once. I suppose John'll grumble, but the Lord has sent me this money, and I mean to use part of it to make one good day for them."
Having settled this in her mind, she walked on more quickly, and visited various shops in the neighbourhood. When at last she went home, her big basket was stuffed as full as it could hold, and she carried a bundle besides.
"Here's your tea, John," she said cheerfully, as she unpacked the basket, "a whole pound of it, and sugar, and tobacco, and a new pipe."
"Give me some now," said the old man eagerly; "don't wait to take out the rest of the things."
"And here's a new frock for you, Katey," old Ann went on, after making John happy with his treasures, "a real bright one, and a pair of shoes, and some real woollen stockings; oh! how warm you'll be!"
"Oh, how nice, Mammy!" cried Katey, jumping about. "When will you make my frock?"
"To-morrow," answered the mother, "and you can go to school again."
"Oh, goody!" she began, but her face fell. "If only Molly Parker could go too!"
"You wait and see," answered Ann, with a knowing look. "Who knows what Christmas will bring to Molly Parker?"
"Now here's a nice big roast," the happy woman went on, still unpacking, "and potatoes and turnips and cabbage and bread and butter and coffee and--"
"What in the world! You goin' to give a party?" asked the old man between the puffs, staring at her in wonder.
"I'll tell you just what I am going to do," said Ann firmly, bracing herself for opposition, "and it's as good as done, so you needn't say a word about it. I'm going to have a Christmas dinner, and I'm going to invite every blessed soul in this house to come. They shall be warm and full for once in their lives, please God! And, Katey," she went on breathlessly, before the old man had sufficiently recovered from his astonishment to speak, "go right upstairs now, and invite every one of 'em from the fathers down to Mrs. Parker's baby to come to dinner at three o'clock; we'll have to keep fashionable hours, it's so late now; and mind, Katey, not a word about the money. And hurry back, child, I want you to help me."
To her surprise, the opposition from her husband was less than she expected. The genial tobacco seemed to have quieted his nerves, and even opened his heart. Grateful for this, Ann resolved that his pipe should never lack tobacco while she could work.
But now the cares of dinner absorbed her. The meat and vegetables were prepared, the pudding made, and the long table spread, though she had to borrow every table in the house, and every dish to have enough to go around.
At three o'clock when the guests came in, it was really a very pleasant sight. The bright warm fire, the long table, covered with a substantial, and, to them, a luxurious meal, all smoking hot. John, in his neatly brushed suit, in an armchair at the foot of the table, Ann in a bustle of hurry and welcome, and a plate and a seat for every one.
How the half-starved creatures enjoyed it; how the children stuffed and the parents looked on with a happiness that was very near to tears; how old John actually smiled and urged them to send back their plates again and again, and how Ann, the washerwoman, was the life and soul of it all, I can't half tell.
After dinner, when the poor women lodgers insisted on clearing up, and the poor men sat down by the fire to smoke, for old John actually passed around his beloved tobacco, Ann quietly slipped out for a few minutes, took four large bundles from a closet under the stairs, and disappeared upstairs. She was scarcely missed before she was back again.
Well, of course it was a great day in the house on the alley, and the guests sat long into the twilight before the warm fire, talking of their old homes in the fatherland, the hard winter, and prospects for work in the spring.
When at last they returned to the chilly discomfort of their own rooms, each family found a package containing a new warm dress and pair of shoes for every woman and child in the family.
"And I have enough left,"' said Ann the washerwoman, to herself, when she was reckoning up the expenses of the day, "to buy my coal and pay my rent till spring, so I can save my old bones a bit. And sure John can't grumble at their staying now, for it's all along of keeping them that I had such a blessed Christmas day at all."
Thursday, December 1, 2011
Waiting Patiently for Santa
I've been waiting patiently for Santa Claus to come.
I don't know why he is so late; it's twenty-five past one.
I have done most everything I can to stay awake.
I've eaten all his cookies and I even licked the plate.
I have jiggled, bounced and rattled every gift beneath the tree.
I have peeked in all the packages and only opened three.
I have rearranged the ornaments and put them all down low,
So when the tree falls down again they won't have far to go.
I know what disappointment he will feel if I don't wait,
But I'm running out of things to do to try to stay awake.
I am guessing Santa just forgot to do my neighbourhood,
And here I have been trying "hard as nails" to be so good!
Next year when Santa gets my list I'll have to let him know,
If he expects to see me, he cannot be so slow.
I hope that he appreciates I cannot take the strain
Of waiting quite so patiently if he is late again
THE MAN GOD CHOSE TO RAISE HIS SON
Matt. 1:18-25
Rev. M.D. Rogers
A Dying man trying to find a family to raise his daughter. He placed her
with a Christian family because they would treat her right and show her the
right way to live. How particular do you suppose God was when He was choosing
the family that would raise Jesus? I think that God would want to find a family
that would treat the child good, that would train Him up in the way of the
Lord, that would Jesus the example that every young man needs and deserves.
Much, often too much emphasis is placed on Mary and her choice to become
the mother of Jesus. Yes, she deserves to be thanked and held in great respect,
but too often, we forget about Joseph. His example and lifestyle were very influential
in the life of the Lord Jesus. Tonight, I want to take just a few minutes to
look at the man God chose to raise His Son.
I. v. 18-19 HIS DILEMMA
(Ill. The way Joseph handled himself revealed a lot about his true
character.)
A. An Unexpected Development – Ill. The pregnancy of Mary during the
betrothal period was a serious offense. (Ill. The Betrothal period was
considered as binding as a marriage.) (Ill. How respond in a time of crisis
reveals our true nature! When things are going smoothly, we are able to hide a
lot that becomes clear in a crisis!) Joseph’s reaction reveals a man under
control! (Ill. Jesus was always in control of Himself – He probably saw this
trait in Joseph!)
B. An Uncharacteristic Deliberation – Ill. Most men would have divorced
Mary, (Ill. The procedure!) This would have left her poverty stricken and
because of the baby, no other man would have dared marry her. Ill. Joseph was
"Just" – Righteous! He wanted to do the right thing by Mary! (Joseph
and Jesus were both marked by their compassion – Ill. John 8:1-11. (Ill.
Tradition says that Joseph was a widower who was much older than Mary. If so,
this may have accounted for his patience, calmness and wisdom in the
situation.)
C. An Uncommon Decision – Ill. Joseph, by right, could have invoked the
death penalty – Deut. 22:13-21. He could have Mary stoned to death publicly.
However, he chose to spare her the shame. Again, this reveals compassion on the
part of Joseph.
II. v. 20-23 HIS DREAM
(Ill. 3 Great Truths were revealed to Joseph in his dream)
A. The Truth Of The Pregnancy Is Revealed – Joseph discovers who the real
Father is. Joseph realizes that he has been chosen to be part of a glorious
plan.
B. The Child’s Title Is Revealed – Ill. Joseph is commanded to name the
child "Jesus" – Jehovah Is Salvation! (Ill. Jesus certainly lived up
to His Name!)
C. Joseph’s Task Is Revealed – Joseph would have to live with the shame
that would be placed upon Him by others. Ill. There are several traditions
surrounding the birth of Jesus. 1.) Joseph’s son; 2.) Mary had a
secret lover; 3.) A Roman soldier raped Mary. Again, this speaks
well of Joseph, he was willing to bear this cross for the glory of God.
Certainly, Jesus learned much from watching this man suffer in silence!
III. v. 24-25 HIS DECISION
A. He Obeyed The Lord’s Commands – Obedience reveals the heart of man
like nothing else! Ill. John 14:15; 1 Sam. 15:22. When we obey the Lord’s
command, even when they are unpleasant or hard, it proves our love for Him and
reveals where our loyalty truly is.
B. He Observed Mary’s Chastity – Mary and Joseph never came together
physically until after Jesus was born, thus fulfilling the Scripture – v. 23.
This is another indication of the man’s moral standing. A lesser man would have
demanded the right of a husband. (Ill. Joseph possessed the characteristics of
his Old Testament counterpart Joseph – Gen. 39 Ill. Gen. 39:9)
C. He Obediently Named The Child – The right of naming the child was in
the hand of the Father. Joseph knew that the child’s true Father wanted the
child called Jesus. Therefore, Joseph named the child Jesus.
Conc: Joseph was chosen to be the surrogate father of Jesus because he
was pure of life and pure of heart. He was the kind of man God could use,
because God didn’t have to worry about Joseph getting in the way. In other
words, he was yielded to the will of the Lord. We ought to look at our own
lives tonight and ask ourselves, "Are we the kind of person that God could
use in a big way?" If not, then what do we need to do to get there? God
will never call another man to do what Joseph did. But, God has plenty of big
jobs left to do, He just needs the people who are willing and qualified to do
them
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Stop Excusing Our Young Men
Stop Excusing Our Young Men
I think that legitimate excuses has ran there course. Yes there are dispariites but they exist for boys and girls, and I don’t believe we should begin to separate the 2 because we focused on disparities of Black men long ago and Black women wasn’t given that but we stayed supportive never-the-less and we press on. But I believe we try to finish this fight together, for both of our children or each is going to find themselves swimming against the tide on their own
I think that legitimate excuses has ran there course. Yes there are dispariites but they exist for boys and girls, and I don’t believe we should begin to separate the 2 because we focused on disparities of Black men long ago and Black women wasn’t given that but we stayed supportive never-the-less and we press on. But I believe we try to finish this fight together, for both of our children or each is going to find themselves swimming against the tide on their own
Christmas and Advent Season- Rev.M.D. Rogers
The word Advent derives from the
Latin word meaning coming. The Lord is coming. We may reflect that every year
at this time we celebrate his coming , so that in a sense we can lose the
feeling of expectancy and joyful anticipation, because at the end of the
season, everything seems to return to pretty much the same routine. If that is
the case, then our preparation may have been lacking and we have therefore been
robbed of much of the true meaning of this season.
During Advent we recall the
history of God's people and reflect on how the prophecies and promises of the
Old Testament were fulfilled. This gives us a background for the present. Today
we can reflect on the past track record of God and so begin to understand what
it means to us now for the sake of what is to come, in our own future and that
of our world.
The theme of
readings and teachings during Advent is often to prepare for the Second Coming
while commemorating the First Coming of Christ at Christmas. With the view of
directing the thoughts of Christians to the first coming of Jesus Christ as
savior and to his second coming as judge, special readings are prescribed for
each of the four Sundays in Advent.
of joy tinged with penance. Joy, because we can imagine nothing more sweet than
the Christ Child and His Mother Mary's bliss at His coming to light. Penance
because we must strive to be properly disposed to receive so great a gift of
His presence. In the millennial tradition of the Church, we faithful have done
penance before great feasts. Christmas and Easter each have their penitential
seasons in anticipation, Advent and Lent. The liturgical color used in the
Latin Church for the liturgy during both Advent and Lent is purple, a sign of
penance. In some places people may see blue used, which is done without the
Church's approval. The Latin Church also emphasizes the penitential dimension
of the season by directing the use of sparse ornaments in church and by
legislating that instrumental music should not be used, except to sustain
congregational singing. This is a kind of liturgical fast, which makes the joy
and celebration of Christmas all that much more powerful by the contrast of the
lean and muted season of Advent. Advent is a time of great joy, because we look
forward to the beautiful feast of the Nativity, but it is joy stitched through
with somber and focused spiritual preparation by doing penance.
He is comes to us
in different ways. First, Jesus came to us at a specific point in history at
Bethlehem about 2000 years ago. But in the Church's great feast of Christmas He
mystically comes again. Second, the Lord, Alpha and Omega, will come to judge
the living and the dead in the Second Coming. Third, the Redeemer comes to us
in grace. He speaks to us in our consciences, he comes to us in the Eucharist
and in the Word of God proclaimed. He arrives in the person of the begger, the
needy, the suffering, the oppressed. We must be ready to receive and welcome
Him when He comes, however He comes.
Saturday, November 26, 2011
Letter from a college student
The other day, a friend of mine visited me in the lobby of my dorm just to chat while her laundry was drying. As we were chatting, two young
freshmen came by. One of the 2 boys wanted to 'talk' to my friend (as in date). She asked him how old they were, and both of the boys replied 18. My
friend and I both laughed hysterically because we are both 22 years old.
After my friend left, the young men were still hanging around and one wanted to know how he could gain her interest.
The first thing I told him to do was to pull up his pants! He asked why, and then said he liked saggin' his pants. I told him to come over to my
computer and spell the word saggin'. Then I told him to write the word saggin' backwards..
S-A-G-G-I-N
N-I-G- G-A-S
I told him the origin of that look was from centuries ago. It was the intent of slave owners to demoralize the field workers by forbidding them
to wear a belt as they worked in the fields or at any other rigorous job. In addition, men in prison wore their pants low when they were 'spoken for'. The
other reason their pants looked like that was they were not allowed to have belts because prisoners were likely to try to commit suicide.
And, saggin' pants prevents you from running.
We as young Black people have to be the ones to effect change. We are dying. The media has made a mockery of the Black American.
Even our brothers and sisters from Africa don't take us seriously. Something as simple as pulling up your pants and standing with your head held
high could make the biggest difference in the world's perception of us. It is time to do right by ourselves. We need to love and embrace each other. No
one is going to do that for us.
It all comes down to perception. What people perceive is what reality to them is. We have to change not only the media's perception of us,
but we need to change our perception of ourselves.
Remember all eyes are on you Black Man. All eyes are on you Black Woman. All eyes are on your Black Child . People point the finger at
us and expect us to engage in negative and illegal activities, to manifest loud, boisterous behavior, to spend our hard earned money in their stores,
buying goods we don't need, or really want.. We have allowed not only the media, but the government and the world to portray us as a 'sub-culture.
' They have stripped our culture down to the point where the image of Black people is perpetuated as rappers, athletes, drug users, and consumers of
junk food, expensive tennis shoes, expensive cars, expensive TVs, cell phones and not investing in homes for our families.
We are so much more!!!!!!!
To all our Black Men: It's time to stand up. There are billions of Black Women who want to do nothing more than worship the ground
that you walk on. We are so in love with your potential. We want to have your back, we want to love, support and cherish every ounce of your being.
But with that you have to show that you are willing to be the head of our households. You have to prove yourselves worthy of our submission. We need
you to be hard working...Not a hustler. We need you to seek higher education, to seek spirituality. We need you to stand! And trust us; we will have
your back. We know that it gets hard. We know you get weary. Trust and believe that there is nothing that a Black Man and a Black Woman can't
handle with GOD on their side.
To all our Black Women: It is also time for you to stand up. It is time for you to stop using our bodies as our primary form of
communication. It is time to be that virtuous woman that Proverbs spoke of. You cannot sit by the wayside while our men are dying by the masses.
You are the epitome of Black Love . It starts within you. You need to speak with conviction to let not only our Black Men know, but the world, that you
are the Mothers of this world. You are so powerful. You are so beautiful. You need to love and embrace every blessing God has given us physically,
emotionally and spiritually.
For all our Black Children: We need to love them. We need to teach them. We need to stand up for them. We need to protect them.
We need to show them that there are no 'get rich quick' schemes. We need to tell them that they WILL die trying if they submit to a life of crime and
deceit. We need to teach our children that no one will love them the way we can. And being a basketball player, a rapper, or a drug dealer is not reality.
It's not realistic and only a small percentage of people ever make it as a rapper or professional athlete. We need to teach our children that we can be
more than rappers and athletes. We can be the owners of these sports teams. We can be the CEO's of OUR fortune 500 companies. We need to
believe in literacy.
Please Keep This Going & Have a wonderful day
'This is the year of empowerment. God will empower us to accomplish things.
Thursday, November 24, 2011
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Thanksgiving Reflection 2017
We Americans are a blessed people, but we are also spoiled. I know I am. I can get flustered over the stupidest things—like when my cell phone doesn’t get a good signal, when a flight is delayed or when my computer takes too long to load a website. Most people in the world don’t have iPhones, can’t afford air travel and don’t have computers. My impatience reveals my ungrateful spirit.
So how can we avoid this virus of selfish immaturity? Thankfulness is the antidote. It melts our pride and crushes our sense of entitlement. It reminds us that everything we have comes from God, and that His mercy is the only reason we are blessedHave a Blessed Thanksgiving from all of us at Pass-the_Ball..
Rev. M.D. Rogers
So how can we avoid this virus of selfish immaturity? Thankfulness is the antidote. It melts our pride and crushes our sense of entitlement. It reminds us that everything we have comes from God, and that His mercy is the only reason we are blessedHave a Blessed Thanksgiving from all of us at Pass-the_Ball..
Rev. M.D. Rogers
Monday, November 21, 2011
What Are You Thankful For?-Rev.M.D.Rogers
What Are You Thankful For?
The intent of Thanksgiving is to express gratitude. So, what are you thankful for? — A home? A job? A family and friends?
This thanksgiving, be mindful of the fact that not everybody has a a place they can call their own. Not everybody has a reliable source of income. Some have lost people they love.
And, just because you now have a home, job, family and friends, doesn’t mean you will tomorrow. What will you be thankful for then?
As I read through the psalms I noticed how the psalmist’s thanksgiving went beyond material blessings. Notice in the following verses how his praise or thanksgiving was wrapped up in the person of God –who He is and what He has done.
Ps. 75:1 – We give thanks to You, O God, we give thanks, for Your Name is near; men tell of Your wonderful deeds.
Ps. 92:1-4 – It is good to praise the LORD and make music to Your name, O Most High, … For You make me glad by Your deeds, O LORD; I sing for joy at the works of Your hands.
Ps. 97:12 – Rejoice in the LORD, you who are righteous, and praise His holy name.
Ps. 107:1 – Give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; His love endures forever.
Ps. 107:8 – Let them give thanks to the LORD for His unfailing love and His wonderful deeds for men.
Ps. 118:29 – Give thanks to the LORD, for He is good; His love endures forever.
Ps. 119:62 – At midnight I rise to give You thanks for Your righteous laws.
Let me put out the challenge that this Thanksgiving we keep our focus our great God, on the fullness of who He is, instead of looking at what we do or don’t have. When we are most thankful for Him, we will, like the Apostle Paul, learn to be content “in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.”
The first Thanksgiving Day
The idea of the American Thanksgiving feast is a fairly recent fiction. The idyllic partnership of 17th Century European Pilgrims and New England Indians sharing a celebratory meal appears to be less than 120 years-old. And it was only after the First World War that a version of such a Puritan-Indian partnership took hold in elementary schools across the American landscape. We can thank the invention of textbooks and their mass purchase by public schools for embedding this "Thanksgiving" image in our modern minds. It was, of course, a complete invention, a cleverly created slice of cultural propaganda, just another in a long line of inspired nationalistic myths.
The first Thanksgiving Day did occur in the year 1637, but it was nothing like our Thanksgiving today. On that day the Massachusetts Colony Governor, John Winthrop, proclaimed such a "Thanksgiving" to celebrate the safe return of a band of heavily armed hunters, all colonial volunteers. They had just returned from their journey to what is now Mystic, Connecticut where they massacred 700 Pequot Indians. Seven hundred Indians - men, women and children - all murdered.
This day is still remembered today, 373 years later. No, it's been long forgotten by white people, by European Christians. But it is still fresh in the mind of many Indians. A group calling themselves the United American Indians of New England meet each year at Plymouth Rock on Cole's Hill for what they say is a Day of Mourning. They gather at the feet of a stature of Chief Massasoit of the Wampanoag to remember the long gone Pequot. They do not call it Thanksgiving. There is no football game afterward.
How then did our modern, festive Thanksgiving come to be? It began with the greatest of misunderstandings, a true clash of cultural values and fundamental principles. What are we thankful for if not - being here, living on this land, surviving and prospering? But in our thankfulness might we have overlooked something? Look what happened to the original residents who lived in the area of New York we have come to call Brooklyn. A group of them called Canarsees obligingly, perhaps even eagerly, accepted various pieces of pretty colored junk from the Dutchman Peter Minuet in 1626.
Sunday, November 13, 2011
How did things get this way?
The Church has certainly become a consumer oriented entity. Churches are surveying their areas and designing themselves to meet the expectation of those surveys. The membership's expectation drives the ministries of the churches. People stop attending one church and attend another based on "their needs" being met. Pastors rush from one current idea to another trying to keep up with the changing whims of people.
I know that churches are dying in significant numbers. Many of those still operating are on life support. Naturally, pastors are looking for something that will draw people. They see the mega-churches whose weekly attendance is in the thousands. They believe that this could be their churches if they would simply follow the lead of the mega-churches. They fail to see that their community doesn't match that of the mega-churches and their personality does not match that of the mega-churches' pastors. They think it is all about methods. It isn't, but that doesn't keep them from trying.
How did things get this way? Preaching the Bible and bringing people to know Christ for salvation are secondary to getting people to attend. It appears we are saying, "Come to our church. We don't care what you believe. In fact, we don't care if you ever believe?"
I wonder if most of the people really believe the gospel. Do they believe that Jesus truly sacrificed His life so that all who believed would be forgiven of their sins?
I, for one, am frustrated with the Christianity we have today. I am tired of trying to follow every idea presented by mega-churches so that my church will grow. I want to share the plain truth of the Bible without having to be concerned whether the consumers who hear it will come back. Don't get me wrong. I love having people attend worship. I love seeing them "get it".
Monday, November 7, 2011
The Joys Of Fatherhood -by Eric Payne
Before I became a father I put an extreme value for my time. If you messed with my time I was ready to fight. It?s not that I was even doing anything all that important. I wasn?t up in the club for my weekly grind, I didn?t have a weekly poker night with the fellas that was set in stone. It was just that my time was simply that?mine.So with the arrival of kids in my life my I was initially resistant because if kids require anything its your time and lots of it. And not only do they require it, they deserve it! Knowing this prior to fatherhood I dreaded the idea of having to give up my time to some snot-nosed kids. Now that I?m a father with some years on me, I can barely remember what I was doing with all that time I had as a single, kid-free man. I do know that I was wasting a large percentage of it.I don?t regret the ?freedom? that I?ve traded for becoming a father. The joys of the experience far outweigh the what many on the outside looking in would consider negatives. Below are just a few of the joys I?ve experienced since taking on the name, Dad:While walking with my daughter, knowing instinctively when her hand is outstretched and reaching for mine.Hearing ?Daddy!? screamed with excitement when I come home each day and knowing there?s a genuine hug that?s following right behind it.Planning to assist in the fulfillment of my children?s dreams, NOT living out my own through them.Hearing the word ?Daddy? knowing the different meanings behind it based on the way it?s being said, when it?s being said and knowing how to respond each time the word is spoken.The strength and tenacity that I now have as Dad that no trainer, gym nor any other life experience would have been able to teach.Being blessed with the opportunity to pour wisdom into a young boy aspiring to be a man just as my father poured his wisdom into and sometimes onto me.Learning to appreciate the little things because being a parent often doesn?t allow you the time or finances to chase around after the big things.Realizing that the ?big things? aren?t really all that big because some of the biggest things in life are the little ones and not so little ones who call you Dad.These are just a few of the unexpected joys that have come since I became a father. These joys make the hard work of being a parent seem like a cakewalk most days. And on those other days when it?s not easy at all I remember the joy and of course the responsibility of? it all, and then I?m okay.And I know I?m not the only one. What are some of the joys you?ve experienced since you?ve become a father? We?d love to hear from you in the comments section below.
can your child tell you anything, no matter how bad it is..
by: J. B. Thomson
Let me be more specific: Can your child tell you anything without you losing control? Can they trust you to listen and to respond lovingly, even while showing disapproval? Be honest now. Do you fly off the handle and start jumping to conclusions, or do you control your emotions and respond like a sane person?What if your child came to you and said:I am gay.I dropped out of school.I’m pregnant.I hate you.I want to live with my dad (or mom).I’m dating someone of another ethnic group.I’m married.I’m changing my religion.I’m moving in with my boy/girlfriend.I’m not graduating.I used your credit card or bounced your checks.Most parents say they would be level-headed and try to understand the situation. However, these same parents end up cursing, shouting, and giving ultimatums. In the end, the child says, “I knew I couldn’t tell you” and vows to never share anything with the parent again.My husband and I see this all of the time. As spiritual leaders in the church, young people come to us for help and to make confessions. Some of them need help telling their parents a secret they’ve been carrying for years. After speaking separately with the parent and with the child, we arrange a meeting together. Our role is to offer the child a safe place to explain the situation without the fear of the parent “going off.” We also help the parent put the child’s confession into perspective. In the big scheme of things, dropping out of college is not the end of the world, neither is getting pregnant out of wedlock. We don’t condone these behaviors, but we don’t condemn the person either. Who are we to judge? We believe our responsibility is to speak the truth in love and to guide with wisdom. After all, we have all made mistakes and strayed from the right path at some point in our lives, unless you are one of those perfect parents who never did anything wrong.Personally, that’s not me. As my daughter gets older (she’s only 5), I pray for patience, wisdom, and understanding so she knows that no matter what, she can come to her parents and tell us anything. Even today when she makes a mistake and asks, “Mommy can I tell you something?” I try to remain calm and assuring to her. Punishment might be the result, but regardless, I try to make sure she knows that she is loved. I know things will get more challenging as the years go by, and she will not always come to us like she does now. But, as her parents, we have to do our part to make home the safest, most loving place available, where she truly believes that she can tell her parents anything. BMWK family, can your child tell you anything, no matter how bad it is, without you losing control? Do you offer your child a soft place to fall in times of trouble?
Thursday, November 3, 2011
4 Things You Should Be Doing Now for College
4 Things You Should Be Doing Now for College
Juniors and seniors, listen up. If you haven’t thought about it already, it’s time to think about your next step after high school. If you plan on going to college, here’s a list of what you should be doing now along with tips on how to achieve each goal.
Juniors and seniors, listen up. If you haven’t thought about it already, it’s time to think about your next step after high school. If you plan on going to college, here’s a list of what you should be doing now along with tips on how to achieve each goal.
Is Your Teen Under Pressure?
Is Your Teen Under Pressure?
Why is it that one of the biggest teen pregnancy prevention success stories is also the least-known?
Why is it that one of the biggest teen pregnancy prevention success stories is also the least-known?
Michelle Obama Talks Motherhood
Michelle Obama Talks Motherhood
“Like any mother, I am just hoping that I don’t mess them up,”
“Like any mother, I am just hoping that I don’t mess them up,”
You are the role model…now act like it.
I talk a lot about relationships with spouses and girlfriends, but it’s time to talk about the most important relationship you can have as a man: the one you have with your kids.
This isn’t going to be one of those “oh, my dad was horrible and that’s why I turned out to be the way I am” kind of speeches. I don’t blame my old man for anything in my life. He lived to work and his success on his job was how he gauged his success in life in general. Even today if you ask him what’s going on, he’ll talk about work. It remains his life call…but I still turned out fine.
That being said, when I had kids of my own I did decide I would be a different father from the one I grew up with. When the choice comes between work and family, family wins every single time it’s possible.
And so, because absolutely no one asked, here is what it means to me to be a dad:
You are shaping and forming the future.
With every family moment you spend playing a game instead of watching one on television, you are forming a bond with your child. That child will see you and watch you and–if you give them a reason to–will admire you and want to be like you. Hey, when they hit those tumultuous teen years you’re going to need all the help you can get. Investing when they’re young means you are a role model in their life and someone they grow to respect for information…not the guy who comes home from work and yells at them to get away from the front of the television set so you can see the game.
I’ve heard a lot of parents talk about how horrible their kids became when they were teens, but then I’ve heard just as many dads talk about some family get together they’re doing this weekend with the kids. It isn’t hard to figure out who spends regular time with the kids and who lives their own life without them in mind.
Remember, every moment you spend with them today shapes the future. It may not always be the most convenient thing to do when you’ve just had a long day at work, but take advantage of the opportunity to throw a baseball, attend an imaginary tea party, or get hopelessly slaughtered in a video game by a 9 year old. These are moments you are investing that will pay off in the future.
You are the role model…now act like it.
I have never understood how a parent can stand there holding a cigarette in their hand and tell their kids not to smoke. I don’t follow how fat parents can make fun of their kids for being overweight. Whether you believe it or not, your children look to you as their role models. They may hear what you tell them, but your actions will dictate theirs.
Become the person you want your children to imitate. Don’t just talk a good game.
Your words have power…use them wisely.
I’ll bet you can still remember vividly some cruel remark made to you as a child. Maybe it was you were ugly, or fat, or stupid, or lazy, or something like that. Whatever it was, you remember it. It may have been said in anger, or in passing, or just in jest, but years later you remember it. Maybe it made you a better person as you strove to prove them wrong, but more likely it haunted you over the years.
The kids will make you angry from time to time. They may really do something stupid every once in a while, but never, ever, ever, under any circumstances allow your anger to get the better of you. Keep your mouth shut! Walk away, do whatever, but don’t let your words get away from you.
That’s not to say you let the kids get away with everything. If they do something stupid, call them on it–just don’t call them stupid. Criticize the behavior, discuss options, spank them if need be. Just remember that your words in that moment will forever be remembered.
I have a friend who is 50, and still vividly remembers the day he got his license at age 16. He left his house just minutes after getting his license and drove off to see his girlfriend, driving there on his own for the first time. Along the way, he had a wreck running his car off the road and seriously damaging the transmission. Here was this terrified teenager who called his dad from a pay phone and waited anxiously by his car as his father drove to where he was.
The father arrived and immediately asked if he was ok. My friend said yes, but that the car was ruined and he was sorry. What happened next has stayed with him over 30 years later, and I’ve heard him tell this story to folks numerous times. His father said, “As long as you’re all right. Where were you going? Well, take my car and I’ll stay here until the wrecker arrives. You be careful and have a good time. We’ll talk about this later when you get home.” My friend received mercy when he didn’t deserve it, and his father even allowed him to go on to see his girlfriend (rather foolishly you might think, but it was a cool thing to do). His dad never yelled at him or anything; they just worked out how long it would take the kid to pay off the repair bill.
I’ve heard that story a number of times and have a lot of respect for that guy today. He has kids of his own (all teenagers) and last year one of his daughters wrecked their family car while learning to drive. He told me he remembered the mercy his father showed him, and even though he was steaming inside for what had happened, he kept it in and just held his daughter while she cried and shook, and told her it was all going to be all right.
That’s the legacy of a good father. When your child grows up and decades later still remembers the life lesson you taught through an act of undeserved mercy instead of blasting them away with words, you have succeeded. When that same child uses you as their role model when parenting their own children, you are more than a success…you are a legend.
This isn’t going to be one of those “oh, my dad was horrible and that’s why I turned out to be the way I am” kind of speeches. I don’t blame my old man for anything in my life. He lived to work and his success on his job was how he gauged his success in life in general. Even today if you ask him what’s going on, he’ll talk about work. It remains his life call…but I still turned out fine.
That being said, when I had kids of my own I did decide I would be a different father from the one I grew up with. When the choice comes between work and family, family wins every single time it’s possible.
And so, because absolutely no one asked, here is what it means to me to be a dad:
You are shaping and forming the future.
With every family moment you spend playing a game instead of watching one on television, you are forming a bond with your child. That child will see you and watch you and–if you give them a reason to–will admire you and want to be like you. Hey, when they hit those tumultuous teen years you’re going to need all the help you can get. Investing when they’re young means you are a role model in their life and someone they grow to respect for information…not the guy who comes home from work and yells at them to get away from the front of the television set so you can see the game.
I’ve heard a lot of parents talk about how horrible their kids became when they were teens, but then I’ve heard just as many dads talk about some family get together they’re doing this weekend with the kids. It isn’t hard to figure out who spends regular time with the kids and who lives their own life without them in mind.
Remember, every moment you spend with them today shapes the future. It may not always be the most convenient thing to do when you’ve just had a long day at work, but take advantage of the opportunity to throw a baseball, attend an imaginary tea party, or get hopelessly slaughtered in a video game by a 9 year old. These are moments you are investing that will pay off in the future.
You are the role model…now act like it.
I have never understood how a parent can stand there holding a cigarette in their hand and tell their kids not to smoke. I don’t follow how fat parents can make fun of their kids for being overweight. Whether you believe it or not, your children look to you as their role models. They may hear what you tell them, but your actions will dictate theirs.
Become the person you want your children to imitate. Don’t just talk a good game.
Your words have power…use them wisely.
I’ll bet you can still remember vividly some cruel remark made to you as a child. Maybe it was you were ugly, or fat, or stupid, or lazy, or something like that. Whatever it was, you remember it. It may have been said in anger, or in passing, or just in jest, but years later you remember it. Maybe it made you a better person as you strove to prove them wrong, but more likely it haunted you over the years.
The kids will make you angry from time to time. They may really do something stupid every once in a while, but never, ever, ever, under any circumstances allow your anger to get the better of you. Keep your mouth shut! Walk away, do whatever, but don’t let your words get away from you.
That’s not to say you let the kids get away with everything. If they do something stupid, call them on it–just don’t call them stupid. Criticize the behavior, discuss options, spank them if need be. Just remember that your words in that moment will forever be remembered.
I have a friend who is 50, and still vividly remembers the day he got his license at age 16. He left his house just minutes after getting his license and drove off to see his girlfriend, driving there on his own for the first time. Along the way, he had a wreck running his car off the road and seriously damaging the transmission. Here was this terrified teenager who called his dad from a pay phone and waited anxiously by his car as his father drove to where he was.
The father arrived and immediately asked if he was ok. My friend said yes, but that the car was ruined and he was sorry. What happened next has stayed with him over 30 years later, and I’ve heard him tell this story to folks numerous times. His father said, “As long as you’re all right. Where were you going? Well, take my car and I’ll stay here until the wrecker arrives. You be careful and have a good time. We’ll talk about this later when you get home.” My friend received mercy when he didn’t deserve it, and his father even allowed him to go on to see his girlfriend (rather foolishly you might think, but it was a cool thing to do). His dad never yelled at him or anything; they just worked out how long it would take the kid to pay off the repair bill.
I’ve heard that story a number of times and have a lot of respect for that guy today. He has kids of his own (all teenagers) and last year one of his daughters wrecked their family car while learning to drive. He told me he remembered the mercy his father showed him, and even though he was steaming inside for what had happened, he kept it in and just held his daughter while she cried and shook, and told her it was all going to be all right.
That’s the legacy of a good father. When your child grows up and decades later still remembers the life lesson you taught through an act of undeserved mercy instead of blasting them away with words, you have succeeded. When that same child uses you as their role model when parenting their own children, you are more than a success…you are a legend.
Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Mr. Webster says that a disciple is a follower. Alan Root in his book Disciplification! defines disciplification in three ways:The travels of a discipleThe practiced habit of “following” A made up word that simply means the life changes made to become more and more like Jesus each day. So if our job is to make followers who through life changes and good choices cause them to be more like Jesus, then what actions, habits, and character traits should a twelve-year-old Christ-follower possess? For years, I think we’ve been guilty of using faithfulness as the major evaluation if a child has been discipled. If a child was faithful to attend plus participate in loads of other children’s ministry activities and programming, then we would send them into the youth ministry and feel like we succeeded. In a few years, we would look them up in the youth group and find they were not there and wonder, “What did the youth pastor do to make this child lose interest?” I have said for years that those of us that teach kids should think of ourselves as foundation specialists. But anyone who has ever built any kind of building knows that the type foundation you build has everything to do with the type of building you can build. In construction, you start with the building plans and then determine what kind of foundation it needs for what you are building. In children’s ministry, I think many of us have been guilty of designing the foundation, then saying to the youth ministry, "Now go fit your building on the foundation we have built," never one time sitting down and working together toward the end result. Sometimes, the problem has started long before we promote them into the youth ministry, even from one department or ministry to another within the total children’s ministry. We are so territorial; we haven’t worked as a true team and prepared them for the now as well as the next age group. Instead of looking ahead, we have focused on the present, which centers on and around our own ministry responsibilities. When we help other departments and ministries around us be successful, then we’ll be successful. We are all on the same team working toward the same goal. Our mission here at World Outreach Church is to help people become fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. Our mission for the children’s ministry as well as for our student ministries is to help young people and parents become fully devoted followers of Christ now and forever. You can’t hit the church’s mission without every ministry that makes up the church working on that same mission statement, just breaking it down for their age groups.Stephen Covey, in his book 7 Habits of Effective People, said it this way, “Habit number 1 is to start with the end in mind.” Why don’t we as staff and ministers sit down together with our next generation ministries and our lead pastors and just plan backwards? Ask ourselves, “What do we want a young adult to know as a part of the congregation?” then let’s back up and look at the college ministry and see what we need to teach there. For this to work, we have to then look at the senior high ministry, then to the middle school ministry, then to the elementary ministries. Then, working backwards, we evaluate our preschool and nursery ministries to see what should be learned. (Did you notice I didn’t use the word taught? I believe just because teaching takes place doesn’t mean learning occurs.) We must get in the habit of defining and evaluating what we do and the results those actions are yielding if we are going to be successful at discipling children.This is just the first step in making this process a way of life at your church. Years ago, I sat down with my youth pastor, and I asked him, “What do you want the sixth graders I promote into your youth ministry to know and be?” That was a question that took some time to develop. I also think that this list could and would be different from church to church. The bottom line is this: Make a list. If you aim at nothing, you’ll hit it every time. Make it a matter of prayer and work on your list as a team. It’s more than getting children “saved.” It’s time we all move past just getting children saved and help them to live saved. Disciplification is all about how each day gets lived by someone who is saved.Luke 2:49-52 tells us about Jesus at twelve. It says that He had a desire to be about His Father’s business. It also says He was obedient to His parents. It also says He continued to grow in wisdom. (That’s understanding and knowledge of the Word.) I believe this with all my heart: the voice of wisdom and the voice of the Word is always the same. He also grew physically as well as grew in His relationship with God and with others. I believe this should also take place with those we seek to disciple.No matter what you place on your list, the children you lead won’t become those things if you don’t do four important things:We must become all of those things. My mom used to say, “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander!” What we expect others to do, we must become these things first. I never want to forget that when I point to others, there are three fingers pointing back to me!Place others who will also serve as models before those you lead. A disciple cannot be made without someone who is willing to be an example. Jesus said something powerful in John 14:9, “Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father.” Think about that, it’s almost mind-boggling. Jesus modeled the Father so others would know God. Could children understand what God is like from us? They should! Children must have someone who is willing to say, “Come follow me as I follow the Lord.” Gone must be the day of saying do as I say not as I do. We must be willing to set an example and model to both kids and adults.Give those you lead what the Bible says about each of the things you want them to do to be a true follower of Christ Jesus.Give them opportunities to do these things. Learning is more than sitting and listening; it’s all about doing. I never apologize for giving people an opportunity to serve and put what they are learning into action.
Maintaining Attention and Avoiding Discipline Problems
Maintaining Attention and Avoiding Discipline Problems: Adhering to a few guidelines will virtually eliminate the majority of discipline problems.
How Do You Keep the Sabbath?
Here’s a snippet of a conversation that will be repeated over and over for me today. I’ll say to someone I haven’t seen in a few days, “Hey, how’s life?” And they’ll respond with, “Life is great. We are crazy busy though. It’s always something. Just running here and there. Crazy busy. But it’s good.”I’ll hear that or some variation of that dozens of times a day.And sometimes I feel prompted to push back and say, “Do you practice the rhythm of the Sabbath?” I’m often surprised how many Christians think the Sabbath doesn’t apply to them or secretly believe that Jesus actually did away with the Sabbath or, at the very least, diminished its importance. But just look at this passage.Mark 3:1-6. Another time he went into the synagogue, and a man with a shriveled hand was there. Some of them were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath. Jesus said to the man with the shriveled hand, “Stand up in front of everyone.” Then Jesus asked them, “Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to kill?” But they remained silent. He looked around at them in anger and, deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts, said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” He stretched it out, and his hand was completely restored. Then the Pharisees went out and began to plot with the Herodians how they might kill Jesus.Notice in Mark 3 (this is true of all the Gospel accounts) the discussion is not about WHETHER to keep the Sabbath day but about HOW to keep it.Their argument was over what was lawful to do on the Sabbath, and we see Jesus demonstrating over and over that it’s lawful to do good on the Sabbath. In other words, Jesus is restoring the Sabbath to its original intention of connecting us to the love, grace, wonder, and mercy of our Heavenly Father.I feel as if God has been teaching me a lot about this rhythm of the Sabbath and its importance to my life, my family, and my ministry.
Make the Ball Come to You
Make the Ball Come to You: The best leaders aren’t running around trying to make things happen all the time.
Friday, October 28, 2011
Is Mischief Always a part of Halloween ?
We all know what happens on Halloween, the night that little boys and girls dress up and (unwittingly) celebrate the ancient Celtic tradition of Samhain and All Hallows Eve.
Anyone who has woken up on Halloween morning to find their house egged, their pumpkin smashed or yard toilet-papered, however, is lucky enough to live where a sister tradition that is not quite as old (but a yearly custom all the same) is also practiced with fervor.
The night of Oct. 30, which goes by a variety of names including Devil's Night in Detroit and Miggy Night in parts of England, sees neighborhood youngsters pull pranks just as diverse as the custom's monikers, ranging from the innocent to the downright dangerous.
So where did this license to cause mayhem come from?
Mischief Night, as it is most commonly known in the United States, has been around in its present form for at least 50 years, when it became a day for playing "tricks" while Halloween itself was reserved for the little one to gather "treats." The practice goes back hundreds of years before that, though, to a time when Halloween and misbehavior were inextricably linked.
In some areas, unfortunately, today's pranks have evolved into acts much scarier than ghosts or goblins.Mischief always a part of Halloween
Causing mischief has been a part of the Halloween tradition since the very beginning.
The most ancient roots of Halloween come from the Celts of Great Britain, who believed that the day before their Nov. 1 New Year was a time when spirits came back to haunt and play tricks. On Oct. 31, people dressed up in scary costumes, played games, lit bonfires and left food out on their doorsteps for the ghosts in celebration of this otherworldly event, which the Celts called Samhain.
When Great Britain was Christianized in the 800s, the ghoulish games of Samhain merged with All Saints Day and All Souls Day, during which the dead were honored with parades and door-to-door solicitation by peasants for treats — usually a bit of food or money.
After the Protestant Reformation, much of England stopped the "treating" side of Halloween because it was connected to Catholic saints, and transferred the trickery to the eve of Guy Fawkes Night, a Nov. 5 holiday celebrating the foiling of the 1605 Gunpowder Plot to blow up British Parliament. Mischief Night in England is still celebrated on Nov. 4.
The Irish, Scottish and northern English, meanwhile, kept up much of their Halloween traditions, including the good-natured misbehavior, and brought their ways to North America with the wave of immigration in the 1800s.
Before the 20th century, Halloween mischief in the United States and Canada happened on Oct. 31 and consisted of tipping over outhouses, unhinging farmer's gates, throwing eggs at houses and the like. By the 1920s and 30s, however, the celebrations had become more like a rowdy block party, and the acts of vandalism more serious, probably instigated by tensions over the Great Depression and the threat of war, historians say.
To stem the vandalism, concerned parents and town leaders tried to ply kids with candy, encouraging the forgotten tradition of trick-or-treating in costume in exchange for sweets, bumping the mischief element from the celebrations of Oct. 31 altogether. It was then that the troublemakers, neighborhood by neighborhood, adopted Oct. 30 as their day to pull pranks.
The custom of vandalism on Oct. 30, oddly, seems to have only developed sporadically, often appearing in some areas but not at all in others nearby.
Nowadays, Mischief Night is especially popular in pockets where Irish and Scottish immigration was common — in northeastern United States but not in the South and West, for example, and in the English-speaking communities of Canada but not the French. Examples of the regional varieties include:
•Cabbage Night in parts of the northeastern United States, where rotten vegetables are collected and left on porch stoops or smeared on doors and windows.
•Mat Night in English-speaking Quebec, where pranksters steal doormats and switch them with the neighbors'.
•Gate Night, in the Midwest, where farmers gates are opened, leaving livestock to roam free.
Other popular pranks include the ubiquitous toilet-papering of homes and trees, "soaping" cars and windows and pumpkin smashing.
Though it consists of harmless fun in most places, "Devil's Night" in Detroit is notorious for its ties to gang culture and random acts of arson.
In 1984, more than 800 fires were set there on Devil's Night, leading to a serious crackdown and an Oct. 30 curfew for minors that persists to this day.
Rev. M.D. Rogers
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